I wrote this days before Ramadan (Aug.2009). some friends said, it may be interesting for my blog readers too.
Ramadan, the Islamic month of fasting is on the way. The change in the mood of the society can be tracked in many ways. Among them; people tend to shop more foodstuff and store as much as they could. Chicken and meat in particular increase demand considerably during the fasting month. As a result price of some foodstuff get higher and even a few groceries become difficult to find. I do not know what to name this event, what ever it is, Fasting is no good name for it.
The Office hours are change too. Radio announced last week that the offices open one hour late and close one hour earlier. This procedure is an attempt to reduce the hardness of fasting process.
Another interesting thing is the huge number of marriage gatherings carnivals on the streets before the month of Ramadan. Usually by tradition wedding parties will not be scheduled within the month of Ramadan and also the two months of Moharam and Safar, which witness various mourning rituals commemorating the Martyrdom of Hussein the third Imam. I attended in two wedding parties in two consecutive nights this week. One in Lorestan another in Karaj.
The Lorestan party was held in a saloon located in a garden ten minutes drive to the city. Upon arrival we were guided to a beautiful newly made Villa. On the entrance the route for ladies and gentlemen were separated. About three hundred men were at the tables helping themselves with fresh fruits and sweets. There were no sounds except the hum of people talking. There was a mixture of everything people from four months babies to 100 years old men. A number of them had ties, a few actually fitted, some just a t-shirts and there were others even did not bother to change their daily garment and seemed to have come to party directly from the field. Minutes later a group of three people entered the saloon, which by their belonging we found they were traditional musicians. One with a piccolo-like wind instrument and another one with a big drum hang on his shoulder. The third later I found was a partner to collect money from audience who wish to contribute to the Band (which of course had nothing to do with the contract with the Wedding owner). Though this was not strange in this part of the country yet we were told the Bridegroom, a religious military man, did not want to make a sin by playing western music. Therefore, this traditional music considered not to be against Islam. I can not tell where he got this idea and how does he know which of the music is sin another is not. On the other hand the women on the first flour had a CD player and played different pop music and had danced to it the whole night. Of course, we men just heard this due to separation and heavily curtained women section. I do not really understand where in Islam is said that some sins can be implied only to men! However, one can say, at least this I found to be one of the little discrimination here that women profit more. In the party, there was an argument between one Musavi fan and a retired military man who supports Ahmadinejad in a great deal. The pro Musavi ironically told the retired military man that the tie he is wearing is on the sake of Musavi's efforts. The tie story has an unimaginable background here in Iran. Mainly after the 1979 revolution when this out fit labeled the wearer a pro-west person, wearing tie was a taboo. The pro-Ahmadinejad responded to the Musavi supporter nervously: "will you stop that". And while trying to change his sit uttered dirty words to Ahmadinejad, Musavi and even to Religion! The Musavi supporter was next to me and whispered, "His salary has sharply raised and that's why he is supporting the government strongly". Wedding went on and men mostly younger ones danced Lori in round groups to Kurdish tune. The third man I talked about earlier seemingly under the effect of some sedatives like liquor or opium, strolled around and loudly asked for contributions to Music band for the health of the owner of the party! How these two items may possibly relate, only himself knows. The bridegroom singly accompanied by close friends playing his chaperon role came on each table and welcomed the visitors one by one. Then after a while a simple and very well prepared food was served on the same tables. The food was one plate of plain steamed rice with a well fried chicken leg or chest seeped into Barberries fried in saffron and butter mixed with slices of pistachio and almond served. The management preventing fritter was admirable. The celebration was over; the participants got to their cars and some on motorbikes while blowing their horns accompanied the bride and bridegroom to their house. A participant told me during post electoral unrest in Tehran hundreds of these bikers are sent there to calm down the Tehran people. The same man, dishonoring his own negligence, explained how the whole country is putting its hope on Tehran citizens to fight the totalitarian regime. The bride sitting next to bridegroom driving a hired Mazda was completely covered with cloths that no one saw her face. Her name was not on the invitation card either, only: Miss. I remembered a song from Modern Talking; No face, No name, No number!
The second wedding party was in a garden close to Karaj. There were 200 people men and women mixed. Older ones were sitting around on the tables in a circle leaving a place for about 60 to 70 boys and girls and young couples to dance. The men were in typical black coats with ties and semi naked girls had heavy make ups. A young DJ with his two colleagues performed Iranian and western disco music. Dancing lights and fog had no harmony with the music. The visual special effects were going on all together at the same time and a powerful camera flash projection corrupted their intended effects. Lemon and orange juice was constantly served by both men and lady servants. The wedding couple visited all tables one by one and welcomed the participants. The Swine flu prevention public messages had stopped the traditional kissing in the gathering, but yet interestingly a relative excused for not kissing me because he was ashamed to smell liquor.. By chance I sat beside a middle aged lady whom they said was the garden's owner. I felt her career may have many interesting memories for her and stories for me. So, I asked her what was her best and worst memories in this business. She replied, "I do not feel talking about such things, my mad son almost strangled me today"! Moments later I changed location and stood where I could see the crowed of young people dancing. A relative who did not look very cheerful told me, "Did you see my daughter's appearance"? She was referring to her Hijab-less daughter. I explained to her that change is good. "Just look"! I said, "The Holy Prophet of Islam changed the direction of his prayers, so then the whole Muslim community from Jerusalem to Mecca in one praying venue, because there was a need to change". I do not know why did I say this but this was the first thing coming to my mind. She admitted and added "Oh, yes, Jamil (Her husband. Known as a fanatic Muslim) believes that Islam wants us to live in time". Then what was the problem? I did not understand. I sat next to a relative, a man whom I had not seen for a long time. He told me that his brother's family has just come from Canada. They had told him that Canadian like Ahmadinejad for his strength and stubbornness. I asked, "How this could be? Does your relative means some individuals or some certain groups there in Canada?" He did not know. Loud speakers invite people to dance Tango. A woman wants to go and dance with her husband but stopped and told us, she's ashamed of her father who was around. She added, "I always promises to God to observe my Hijab but then I can not keep my promises". The loud Speakers announced dinner was ready. The self service style served steamed rice with vegetable with beef. Plain steamed rice with fried chicken soaked in saffron with pistachio and chicken Kebob both with bones and without bones. Also lots of deserts and fruits were served. There were many fruits shaped only for decoration with tens of candles. People who finished eating started to leave the place in groups. Hotel California was played. It was beautiful and stays so for years to come even in the heart of Islamic republic. Then the elderly of the party holders stayed at the gate and made the good bye custom and thanked people for coming. Outside I saw to military men patrolling and nothing happened for the bad Hijab and extremely loud music. I supposed it was some arrangements with the district police or else all participants may have been detained.
What can we call this, a stereo type society, perhaps. Or a nation with no name, no face and no number?
Ramadan, the Islamic month of fasting is on the way. The change in the mood of the society can be tracked in many ways. Among them; people tend to shop more foodstuff and store as much as they could. Chicken and meat in particular increase demand considerably during the fasting month. As a result price of some foodstuff get higher and even a few groceries become difficult to find. I do not know what to name this event, what ever it is, Fasting is no good name for it.
The Office hours are change too. Radio announced last week that the offices open one hour late and close one hour earlier. This procedure is an attempt to reduce the hardness of fasting process.
Another interesting thing is the huge number of marriage gatherings carnivals on the streets before the month of Ramadan. Usually by tradition wedding parties will not be scheduled within the month of Ramadan and also the two months of Moharam and Safar, which witness various mourning rituals commemorating the Martyrdom of Hussein the third Imam. I attended in two wedding parties in two consecutive nights this week. One in Lorestan another in Karaj.
The Lorestan party was held in a saloon located in a garden ten minutes drive to the city. Upon arrival we were guided to a beautiful newly made Villa. On the entrance the route for ladies and gentlemen were separated. About three hundred men were at the tables helping themselves with fresh fruits and sweets. There were no sounds except the hum of people talking. There was a mixture of everything people from four months babies to 100 years old men. A number of them had ties, a few actually fitted, some just a t-shirts and there were others even did not bother to change their daily garment and seemed to have come to party directly from the field. Minutes later a group of three people entered the saloon, which by their belonging we found they were traditional musicians. One with a piccolo-like wind instrument and another one with a big drum hang on his shoulder. The third later I found was a partner to collect money from audience who wish to contribute to the Band (which of course had nothing to do with the contract with the Wedding owner). Though this was not strange in this part of the country yet we were told the Bridegroom, a religious military man, did not want to make a sin by playing western music. Therefore, this traditional music considered not to be against Islam. I can not tell where he got this idea and how does he know which of the music is sin another is not. On the other hand the women on the first flour had a CD player and played different pop music and had danced to it the whole night. Of course, we men just heard this due to separation and heavily curtained women section. I do not really understand where in Islam is said that some sins can be implied only to men! However, one can say, at least this I found to be one of the little discrimination here that women profit more. In the party, there was an argument between one Musavi fan and a retired military man who supports Ahmadinejad in a great deal. The pro Musavi ironically told the retired military man that the tie he is wearing is on the sake of Musavi's efforts. The tie story has an unimaginable background here in Iran. Mainly after the 1979 revolution when this out fit labeled the wearer a pro-west person, wearing tie was a taboo. The pro-Ahmadinejad responded to the Musavi supporter nervously: "will you stop that". And while trying to change his sit uttered dirty words to Ahmadinejad, Musavi and even to Religion! The Musavi supporter was next to me and whispered, "His salary has sharply raised and that's why he is supporting the government strongly". Wedding went on and men mostly younger ones danced Lori in round groups to Kurdish tune. The third man I talked about earlier seemingly under the effect of some sedatives like liquor or opium, strolled around and loudly asked for contributions to Music band for the health of the owner of the party! How these two items may possibly relate, only himself knows. The bridegroom singly accompanied by close friends playing his chaperon role came on each table and welcomed the visitors one by one. Then after a while a simple and very well prepared food was served on the same tables. The food was one plate of plain steamed rice with a well fried chicken leg or chest seeped into Barberries fried in saffron and butter mixed with slices of pistachio and almond served. The management preventing fritter was admirable. The celebration was over; the participants got to their cars and some on motorbikes while blowing their horns accompanied the bride and bridegroom to their house. A participant told me during post electoral unrest in Tehran hundreds of these bikers are sent there to calm down the Tehran people. The same man, dishonoring his own negligence, explained how the whole country is putting its hope on Tehran citizens to fight the totalitarian regime. The bride sitting next to bridegroom driving a hired Mazda was completely covered with cloths that no one saw her face. Her name was not on the invitation card either, only: Miss. I remembered a song from Modern Talking; No face, No name, No number!
The second wedding party was in a garden close to Karaj. There were 200 people men and women mixed. Older ones were sitting around on the tables in a circle leaving a place for about 60 to 70 boys and girls and young couples to dance. The men were in typical black coats with ties and semi naked girls had heavy make ups. A young DJ with his two colleagues performed Iranian and western disco music. Dancing lights and fog had no harmony with the music. The visual special effects were going on all together at the same time and a powerful camera flash projection corrupted their intended effects. Lemon and orange juice was constantly served by both men and lady servants. The wedding couple visited all tables one by one and welcomed the participants. The Swine flu prevention public messages had stopped the traditional kissing in the gathering, but yet interestingly a relative excused for not kissing me because he was ashamed to smell liquor.. By chance I sat beside a middle aged lady whom they said was the garden's owner. I felt her career may have many interesting memories for her and stories for me. So, I asked her what was her best and worst memories in this business. She replied, "I do not feel talking about such things, my mad son almost strangled me today"! Moments later I changed location and stood where I could see the crowed of young people dancing. A relative who did not look very cheerful told me, "Did you see my daughter's appearance"? She was referring to her Hijab-less daughter. I explained to her that change is good. "Just look"! I said, "The Holy Prophet of Islam changed the direction of his prayers, so then the whole Muslim community from Jerusalem to Mecca in one praying venue, because there was a need to change". I do not know why did I say this but this was the first thing coming to my mind. She admitted and added "Oh, yes, Jamil (Her husband. Known as a fanatic Muslim) believes that Islam wants us to live in time". Then what was the problem? I did not understand. I sat next to a relative, a man whom I had not seen for a long time. He told me that his brother's family has just come from Canada. They had told him that Canadian like Ahmadinejad for his strength and stubbornness. I asked, "How this could be? Does your relative means some individuals or some certain groups there in Canada?" He did not know. Loud speakers invite people to dance Tango. A woman wants to go and dance with her husband but stopped and told us, she's ashamed of her father who was around. She added, "I always promises to God to observe my Hijab but then I can not keep my promises". The loud Speakers announced dinner was ready. The self service style served steamed rice with vegetable with beef. Plain steamed rice with fried chicken soaked in saffron with pistachio and chicken Kebob both with bones and without bones. Also lots of deserts and fruits were served. There were many fruits shaped only for decoration with tens of candles. People who finished eating started to leave the place in groups. Hotel California was played. It was beautiful and stays so for years to come even in the heart of Islamic republic. Then the elderly of the party holders stayed at the gate and made the good bye custom and thanked people for coming. Outside I saw to military men patrolling and nothing happened for the bad Hijab and extremely loud music. I supposed it was some arrangements with the district police or else all participants may have been detained.
What can we call this, a stereo type society, perhaps. Or a nation with no name, no face and no number?
